Would you get involved with a non-Pagan?

[Wulfnor]

So as a Pagan how has your attempts of having a relationship with a non-Pagan gone. An will you do it again?

[Wulfnor]

Here is my take on it. I couldn't imagine being with a woman who wasn't a Pagan. It's to much apart of my life. There are too many issues and misunderstandings that I have experienced being with a non-Pagan to ever want to go there again. This may sound trivial, but to me it is not. The simple fact that I have to explain from scratch anything regarding my beliefs is not something I want to have to do. The fact that I cannot share things about my beliefs is an issue for me. And lastly, to me, my beliefs are as much a core part of who I am that not being able to share them with a partner at some level would be like not being able to share myself and what would the point of that be?

May the Sacred Divinity of the Universe, in whatever guise you have come
to know it. Bring you joy and happiness! Nurturing and refreshing your
Soul!

Blessings and Laughter,
Wulfnor

[Terri Bruce]

I think if whatever A person believes & it makes them a better person then yeah as long as they dont bash what ever I believe to be true & know. No matter what we do in life someone else is going to dissagree & it's all in how comfortable you are in your own believes & in your own skin. Blessed Be

[courtney]

ive dated guys that werent and i do uderstand what u mean i want someone i can tell things to not not hide things and someone that i can learn new things with and learn things from him

[k.d.]

thats such a hard one on one hand i saw i agree with the poster who started this post but on the other hand if i met the love of my life what i pass her over just cause she does not get into my faith maybe thats why some of us here are single and im not pointing the finger at anyone i have had a lot of rules in dating lot of it was cause of family what i was excepted to do only date within your race don't date certian people of certain faiths i think maybe i let some girls slip through my fingers cause of this im not judging anyone just thinking maybe i should not have so many rules.

[Selina Barrett]

I would date a Buddhist for sure, anyone who i can relate to on a deeper level, they don't have to be another pagan.

[Ryan]

I've never actually dated another pagan before. Every relationship I've been in has been with a non-pagan, and i've ended up ending every one of them.

Reflecting back on all of them, it seemed thier ignorance towards my spirituality left such a wide rift of space, they would never be able to cross to actually understand me. So instead of us becoming closer and evolving in to "we" they all remained an emotionally and mentally distant lover, where i never progressed past "me".

I now have the theory that no one but another pagan will ever be able to cross that void where every other has failed. I don't think I'll ever pursue an commited relationship with a non-pagan again.

[k.d.]

i just don't believe i should limit myself like where i am i judge dating on many things i would have to do a easter egg hunt just top find one then if we don't click get along or have much in common i don't think i could see being with a female just because of paganism alone to me that just would not be enough to hold us together.-ken

[Aubrey Harris]

In response to the first question....Not particularly well.

In response to the second, while I cannot say 'never' again, I really WANT to say so.

She'd have to be exceptionally special, and worth the hell that would come of it.

I can't imagine being with a non Pagan woman again. I'm so...unusual, that I think only the Pagan women have a shot at understanding me, and that's a very important part of my needs from a relationship.

I agree with Wulfnor. Too many issues and misunderstandings, and to not be able to share that, or have to educate yet another woman....well, for me, it's just too much. Too much effort, too much drama, to find myself being something loathsome to someone else, simply because she assumed I was christian.

If she's special, and accepting, and capable of being mature and intelligent about my path, then her religion doesn't make a difference.

[Indigo Rose]

I haven't had many serious relationships but the one I did have that was with someone from another faith was that longest one I had. It helped that he understood about my faith just didn't follow it. I am sure that I would probably date someone who was not pagan but they would have to be completely understanding of my faith and they would have to be supportive. But I might have better luck if they also shared the same faith because maybe then they would understand my unique personality.

[Sam Means]

Though my faith and philosophy are dear and defining to me, they do not define or mean the same thing to others. Our individuality and unique perspective facilitates our very cornerstone of common respect for each others belief systems, and even provides the fuel of passion and wisdom that feeds our spiritual and emotional growth as we walk our paths. With this in mind, I cannot hold a fourth dimensional stencil on a possible mate, simply because she holds traditional beliefs at this point in her path. I only look for an open mind and open soul (both signs of evolutionary maturity). And as we all know, actions are louder than words, so, no matter what or who she looks to for spiritual guidance (because it really doesn't matter since everything is really the same thing in different form) it is her compassion, wisdom, humor, and Love that I admire in fascination. As long as we can both be open and truthful about what is important to us, like our faiths, we can learn and grow together as individuals and as a team. Sharing a similar faith, however tends to show that two individuals are in relatively close frequencies , which is exciting to channel and focus.

[Emily]

My attempts with non-Pagans have proven challenging. Even in a relationship with another Pagan who was raised Southern Baptist, I had to hide my pentacle around the family. I think having common beliefs and philosophies help to keep a relationship smooth, but it also depends on the people involved. Sometimes a person may just require so much that in order to find their mate they may have to compromise on a few things.

[Keith E Legge]

I would say the bulk of my relationships wre with non-pagans, however as the better ones progressed those generally opened up to be closet pagans anyway. I dont have any dislike towards the masses of sheeple themselves just the organizations that guide them, so long as no one is trying to cram thier beliefs down my throat i can get along with them just fine. however I do prefer kindred spirits much more.